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Are You Carrying Too Many Burdens?
Prepare to redefine your understanding of community and personal growth in this engaging episode! We dive deep into the powerful effects of accountability and mutual support while fostering a disciplined approach to personal advancement. You'll discover how emotional and physical burdens can lighten with a healthy support system that emphasizes the importance of nurturing relationships.
Throughout our heartfelt discussion, we share real-life insights and practical advice on maintaining balance amidst life’s demands, especially focusing on how one can prioritize self-care without feeling guilty. Understanding that true growth often requires authentic connections is key, and we highlight ways to assess and enhance your relationships.
Each segment provides thought-provoking reflections, encouraging you to evaluate your current community and recognize potential shifts needed for better support. Whether you’re struggling with feelings of overwhelm or seeking inspiration to elevate your life, this episode offers valuable takeaways for everyone.
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Speaker 2:And I don't know if you caught some of the video, like the promo, the intro I know for those of y'all who listen to us you obviously won't get to see it. Come on over to the YouTube channel and see what I'm talking about. But in the intro for this year, where it talks about discipline because that's our theme where it talks about something that I really think is important for y'all to realize that God works with us. God works with us. That means we got to put some work in into what we're asking him for, what we're hoping for. So, for example, if you're praying for healing and he sends doctors and nurses and medication and things your way, you've got to work with him.
Speaker 2:You know, what I mean. It's not magic, right? You literally have to work with God. So, as he's working with us, I'm so grateful that today we're going to talk about Together we Grow. So this is the wrap up for this month.
Speaker 2:Remember y'all, this month we were dusting off our feet. We're closing out the month of February with these key points, talking about community and discipline, and I just have four things I want to share with you. I'm grateful that you're here. Thank you for waking up with me. I'm just trying to do better.
Speaker 2:To come to the comments, good morning, dr Tracy. God is good y'all. He's so amazing and thank y'all for watching. If you're on Facebook, please don't forget to share it to your friends and fam, and if you're on YouTube, drop a like so I know that y'all are out there. If you're on LinkedIn, same thing. I do actually read the comments and thank you for Ray Deck, for you know, keep us on your channel, right? There's a lot of folks over there. So, and shout out to those who listen to us on iTunes and iHeartRadio or wherever you're listening Spotify, all the things. Thank you so much. So, lord, we just thank you again for this opportunity, for this platform and, as we're wrapping up this month of February with the Thursday teaching series. I pray that you'll encourage us, lord, as many people are moving into a new season of their lives, willingly and unwillingly, lord. Some of them are being pushed and molded and some of them are just growing and expanding, and I just thank you for the opportunities that we still have. But we also realize, lord, that it's you working with us, and so, as we're talking about community today, I ask that you'll help us to find the right community to help us grow, amen. So listen y'all.
Speaker 2:I dropped this scripture in the chat already and it's Galatians 6, verse 2, obviously is the ESV version and it says bear one another's burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ. Bear one another's burdens. There's a couple of other ways and obviously other translations of bearing one another's burdens, but there's a few things, four things, that I want to share with y'all today, as we're thinking about what that means to bear one another's burden. Now, the first thing I want to say is you can't carry anyone's burdens if you can't carry your own. Okay, I, at the beginning of this week, on Monday, just told everyone that I was just taking off my cape. I needed to take this week to just surrender and just be under God and not solve anybody's problems. Okay, your problem is your problem. This week I'm going to take a break. Right, I couldn't bear anyone else's burdens, whether it was on a job, whether it's in my house, whether it's in my friend group. I couldn't in ministry. I couldn't do it this week because I needed my own cup filled. Now, it didn't mean that I wasn't showing up, right, I was still getting dressed, still going to work, still doing all the things, but emotionally and mentally I had to take off the cape, okay, and so one of the things that we tend to do is when we especially when Christians you read this verse and you forget.
Speaker 2:I think a lot of us forget, especially those who are, you know, very I don't know very thoughtful about other people and nurture nurturers, especially women. You know, we're the, we're the nurturing types. Right, it's kind of some of us built into our DNA. But it's impossible. You will fall under somebody else's, you will fall to somebody else's burden if you can't carry your own. So it's OK to take a pause and a beat to say hold on, I need to fill my cup, I need to be able to strengthen my back. I need to understand what the Lord has me to do in this season.
Speaker 2:Sometimes, you know, you've got to pull all the way back so that he can reposition you. Strategize, you know, put you in a different strategy so that he can reposition you. Strategize, you know, put you in a different strategy. Okay, and I know and I'm saying this as someone like I'm a total control person okay, I want control over what I'm doing. I, you know, I'm very intentional about where I go, where I speak, all of the things. But sometimes you have to just pull back so that you even allow God to fight your battles for you, and that requires discipline. It's very, very hard.
Speaker 2:So I'm just starting out with that, for those of you who might be watching, that you're in a period right now where you just feel like you are tired, emotionally, mentally, physically, all of the tireds. Okay, when you're there right now that you can't bear anyone else's burdens if you can't carry your own, you've got to give yourself grace. Right, god is giving you grace, but you've got to give yourself grace. We're not superhuman, all right, all right. So I just wanted to say that Now my cape is back on, I'm refilled, I'm all right now, but I needed that break.
Speaker 2:So the four points that I wanted to share with you the first one we're talking about community and discipline, and you know, together we grow right, and so it's really important that within your maybe it's your faith community and when I say faith community, some of you, it might be your church, you might have a good girlfriend group of believers together. You know that's what I mean, right, a community. So the first thing, though, that within this community, that you need to have accountability. So what does that mean? Now? I told you all at the beginning of the year that I'll be your accountability for the goals that you set for this year. Okay, what is it that you said in January that you said you were going to accomplish this year, and where are you on that?
Speaker 2:It is only two months into the year, and I understand that there are a lot of external things that have happened. A lot of things have happened that impacted our health, our pocketbook. Remember those five areas I told you all about, right, okay, our finance, our personal relationships, our spiritual walk, our health, all of the things right, and there was a reason that there were the five, but this is still. We still have his grace. But where are you on your plan? Where are you right now? Did you give up? Did you start anything? If you were going to start the business, did you sign up for the LLC? Did you fill out the forms, y'all? Did you come up with a marketing plan and a name? You're going to write the book. What did you do so far? So that's where we are.
Speaker 2:We have to have accountability with what we do, what we say we're going to do. So that is really important. You don't want to have a group of cheerleaders. Okay, it's okay to have friends that cheer you along right, support you, but you need to have accountability when you share what your dreams to the. You can only do this with a trusted group, understand. But you've got to have accountability partners to say, hey, girl, I thought you know by now. You said you were going to do so-and-so, where are you at with that? I have accountability partners and it works both ways the people that I trust to say, hey, this is where I want to go with the ministry, I want to do X this year and this is a timeline I'm looking at and I know that those folks are going to come back and go okay, where are we at Right? So accountability is really important. Okay, you don't want an echo chamber? All right. And now, if you don't have an accountability partner, we're your accountability partner.
Speaker 2:As long as you've tapped into Commander Will and Ministry, we will hold you accountable for what you say you're going to do. Why are we doing this? Because, as I said, although this is going to be a very chaotic year, okay, period, I don't care. It's not a political thing, it's a spiritual thing. It's going to be a chaotic year, that doesn't mean that you're not going to be successful. That doesn't mean that the seeds you plant you won't find rewards. It doesn't mean that things are working against you. It doesn't mean that everything is a spiritual attack. It doesn't mean that. But it does mean that you have to be accountable for what you say. When you came into covenant with the Lord, when you said, lord, bless me so I can bless my generations behind me, and he said okay, here's an idea. What did you do with it? So the first thing is got to have accountability, all right. Now the second. Here's the second thing Again, remember, we're talking about bearing one another's burdens, right? So I'm bearing one another's burdens today and bearing your burden too, all right. So the second thing we want to keep in mind is mutual support, and so this now I'm going to say this one specifically to those awesome women in my circle who tend to be the ones that lift the burdens of others, but it's not always mutual you lift the burdens and folks don't lift yours either. So the one thing I want to caution you this year is where you place your level of support.
Speaker 2:My name and my credibility is everything to me. The devil I heard a pastor or a prophet or somebody say this a few years back, and he was saying that the spiritual attacks can come in any form. He knows that. You knows that, just like Job, god will not allow the devil to destroy me, and he knows that he was saying that the one area that the devil is fighting him on is his name and why that is so important. So if you understand scriptures and even the spiritual aspects, but if you understand, quite frankly, the Bible, your name means something, your name stands for something, and I know in the spirit what my name stands for. So one thing that I protect is my name, my credibility, where I go. Where I don't go. I don't get involved in a whole lot of stuff. You know I'm very particular about my name, my name, my identity, understand, so I don't just align my name to anything and everyone. I love y'all, but no right.
Speaker 2:But why is this important? Because when we talk about mutual support, a lot of times again, especially women when we lift the burden of other people and we don't see, we don't see it reciprocated. You know you're the person that they call for everything. You know you're the one that has the special prayer powers and they supposedly don't have it. So you keep taking on the burden, but when you need something, they're gone. You can't find anybody right. Or when they then they ask to take your name in something, when they want to use your credibility, use your name. After all, you know the Lord is.
Speaker 2:Again, I start out by saying God works with us. So the Lord worked with you to establish you. The Lord worked with you to set you apart. The Lord worked with you to bless you in the streets. Okay, the Lord worked with you. And now they want to just take your name. No, no, ma'am, no sir, okay, again, that's another part of accountability. Think of me as your gorgeous auntie, sister and friend, okay, but you're not going to just give up your name just because you want to support someone.
Speaker 2:Support doesn't mean that you keep taking and also sometimes it doesn't mean that you give. It doesn't give. You don't give up your name, you don't give up your identity, you don't give up your value, you don't do any of those things right. So mutual support, y'all. You have to measure what you give If, like I said, if you're not, if you're not able, you can't carry somebody else's burden, if you cannot carry your own, because you will fall under the weight of their burden.
Speaker 2:So I know it feels good. Sometimes it scratches an itch that you have that you want to be seen and you want to be heard and you want to be loved and you want to be validated and want people to think you're awesome and cool and look how great you are, look how much you praise and all the things right. But if you cannot carry the burden that you have, then you cannot pick up somebody else's. It will tear you apart. So, mutual support, just be mindful that anything that you align yourself to mutual support, and if you have, there are people who are, just by their very nature, they're takers.
Speaker 2:I'm a giver by nature, so takers will see me coming and think, okay, I'll just pull from her, I'll pull her ideas, I'll pull her thoughts, I'll ask and have those quick conversations. Even that I had to stop because I realized I was kind of bleeding out, right. So again, mutual support. So remember, we're talking about together we grow and how we build our community, and some of these things are what you want to look at your community, the folks around you and create discipline around it. So the first area was accountability and the second one is mutual support. Mutual support, y'all, okay. Okay, here's the third area. Okay, here's the third area, and I think this is going to.
Speaker 1:This is going to put some of us in the heart.
Speaker 2:Okay, and I'm just telling you the truth, I'm refreshed, so I know what I'm saying, amen. So the third area is around discipline and growth. In your community, in your friend group, in your prayer group, in your Bible study group, you got to have discipline and there has to be growth. If you're still at the same spot you were a year ago, 20 years ago, 10 years ago and there has been no growth, you're in the wrong spot, you're in the wrong group. Okay, there has to be discipline. So, for example, if you, if you had some behaviors or things that the Lord has already released you from, he blessed you. You know, you thank the thank Lord.
Speaker 2:I'm not, you know, I'm not exhibiting those behaviors or those thoughts anymore. I don't think like I do. You know how people, you know they again all over the social media. I don't go to the places I used to. I don't think like I used to. That's the old me is gone. And then the minute something happens that old me comes right back on, and then the minute something happens that old me comes right back, that means that old me was never gone, it was just resting. So the community that you're in has to enable your growth right, and sometimes growth is painful. It requires discipline. It's one foot in front of the other. So discipline might mean listen y'all.
Speaker 2:I had to change my thought pattern, the way that I think and the way that I speak, and it takes discipline. Okay, I used to be really quick I'll just you know, I'm really sharp with the tongue and I just slice people with my mouth and move on. Okay, but I had to learn discipline. So here's something right before before I came on, I was just thinking about this. So, before I started doing the Thursday teaching, as you see here, before the prayer line, before all of the things, right, I was doing podcasts on Tuesdays and I had Tuesdays that was more talking to business owners, and Thursdays it was me and my daughter she's a teenager and as I was coming on here and the Lord had you know again, I gave everything. I was like, lord, you know, I'll do whatever you want me to do. So if I have to give up, tuesday, Tuesday evening which is what happened Tuesday evening became Tuesday prayer nights, which is one of the most powerful nights of the week for me. Ok, and as I came on here, I thought to myself well, wow, look at, look at how how much growth has happened just over the past two years.
Speaker 2:But it required discipline and literally the Lord was reminding me that, yeah, it took discipline because you have to stay the course. You have to be able to battle those conversations when people come to you and say, no, you ought to be doing X, like I literally still have people who are. You know, I want to be on your podcast to talk about branding and business. I'm like that doesn't exist anymore. This is all teaching. You know that is gone and you have to maintain discipline because sometimes you know what happens is the enemy will show up and throw like a distraction or throw a flag on play, and you look at it real quickly and go I wonder if I should be doing such and such, and you go off track. Right, you go off track and then you no longer this. You've got to be focused and disciplined where you are and where you're going. I know that if I, if I, were to pivot back, then that actually is not growth, right? That's not growth. That's me going back to what felt good, right? So discipline y'all. As you think about it is in your community and we're growing together. Like I said, if I'm your only community member, then we're in it together. Okay, but you got to have discipline this year.
Speaker 2:In anything that you apply If it's you want to, you know a health discipline, then you want to find someone who helps you stay disciplined. If you're going to eat the foods or go to the doctor visits or do whatever you got to do. But there has to be some growth. You cannot be stagnant. If you're stagnant, you're in the wrong community, just saying, all right, if you're going to that church and the pastor sounds good and y'all line up and there's thousands and thousands of members and you get in and you're all excited and you get to the parking lot and by Sunday night you're still battling the same demons. You have not experienced growth. It means that you're just going to church for the entertainment, okay. You have to establish there has to be some growth. Growth is a part of your harvest, right? If we're doing the same things and seeing no results, if you're doing the same things and there's no growth, right, that means that something needs to be shifted and sometimes, unfortunately, it is the community and the places that we're in and our discipline. Trying to go back to what felt good, what was easier. So you have to be able to have a community that will help you do that. All right, y'all.
Speaker 2:So now the last thing I want to share again, we're talking about our communities and, again, community of support and all the things. So the last one I want to share is this point of nurturing the relationships that you have, really nurturing the relationships that you have. So this is important. Now there are, I mean, I know a lot of people, or I should say, a lot of people know me. A lot of people know me more than I know a lot of people, because I have a very, very, very small group of women that I communicate with, and even them, I don't tell them half the stuff, ok, but it is really important for you to take the time to nurture the relationships that you have. If, for example, you're right now in a situation where you have lost your job and now on LinkedIn, you send in somebody a message saying, oh, can you help me find something, it's highly likely that people are not going to respond to you because you never nurtured the relationship. And then, when you walk off, disappointed in other people, it's really a reflection on you because you didn't nurture the relationship. If you're only showing up when it's time to take from people remember I talked about mutual support then this isn't the season that you're going to see a lot of reward, because everybody has something going on, right? So what does it mean to nurture relationships? Sometimes y'all is just something so simple Maybe it's just a text to just check in on your friend, you know, say hi, don't ask for anything, right? Just check in and just want to let you know I'm thinking about you, don't you know? Don't just pop up, girl. We're praying for you and your family If they don't know who you are, you know. Don't do that, but really take the time to nurture relationship. One of the ways that I nurture relationship is that I hype my friends. I hype people that are doing great things. I have no problem doing it, and if you're on LinkedIn watching, you're nodding your head like she does, I really absolutely do. But I also do that. That's that part of my nature. I always support folks, right? I do that. That's a part of what I bring to the table. I support and I encourage and I hope I inspire. But I want you guys to nurture relationships and I want you to start in your house. Nurture the relationships with your kids. Like for me, what's important this year of 2025 is the time that I spend with my daughter. More than anything, you know what are we doing together, even if it's grabbing a lunch, or you know what I mean Watching a movie or something. How are you nurturing, spending time? Nurture you know tilling the soil right. The same way you nurture your plants. You trim them, you take care of them, you speak to them, you love them. Nurture your relationships with your spouse, with your partners, with your family, with your friends. Nurture those relationships. That's really important. All right, so that's the last point that I wanted to share. So I'm going to go over them really quickly one more time, because there were four, and I'm going to try to drop them in the chat. Hopefully it lines up, but I really hope this bless you Again.
Speaker 2:We're talking about together we grow. We're talking about community. These are the areas that I want you to think about Accountability, mutual support, discipline. Let me pull it up here Accountability, mutual support, discipline and growth and nurturing your relationships. These are the four things that I want you to think about as we're closing out this month of February, as we're looking at how we grow together and we're kind of doing it together.
Speaker 2:And for those of you guys again, if you're, I don't have a friend, I don't have a community, then that's what we are. You can find, come Out of the Wilderness on Facebook. If you're not on Facebook, you can tap us here. I am always on here every Thursday live. So you're more than welcome to join here or come out to one of our activities and events. They're typically free and we're working on our next event for spring, so we're excited about that. So that's what I had. Don't forget. Today also is Thursday, so we have our phone prayer line.
Speaker 2:I just want to say really quickly, let me show you an example of community and working together and I haven't even shared this with the ladies yet because I don't have the numbers for today's call but as of the beginning of January minus we had one day that was like cray cray with the line, so I can't count it but as of the beginning of January, we've had 129 callers, 129 callers on that phone line, okay, and that is three women taking the time out twice a day on Thursdays to take prayer requests and pray for other people, 129 callers Separate from that those three women have been on their own personal Facebook pages just praying, just showing up, just putting themselves, coming out of their comfort zone and putting themselves out in front. That is, to me, another level of accountability. Right, they're showing mutual support. Right, they're showing discipline and growth y'all and they're nurturing the relationships with the people they're connected to and they have. I don't even know, I don't know the numbers y'all, but I'm telling you hundreds of people, probably more, and I'm not exaggerating, hundreds of people have been watching their demonstration of faith, their demonstration through prayer. They've been watching them, right, they've been watching, receiving and being blessed.
Speaker 2:So when we talk about being a community, I'm not saying you got to go out and you know, find and build a new church. I'm not saying you need thousands of members Because, again, quite frankly, a lot of our churches have become more like college campuses, where it's a great event. But you get to the parking lot I talk to parking lot Christians what happens when you leave the building? Where is your faith in your life? When you're not hyped up, when you're not on sugar, how do you exercise your faith? So these women are an example of folks who are walking, actually walking out this life right. They have discipline behind what they do and I encourage you to do the same.
Speaker 2:So, lord, I thank you, lord, for everyone who's listened or watched whether they're here, live or they're catching the replay that you'll speak to them as you see fit if they're looking for a community to grow and have discipline and accountability so that they can see truly the rewards that they're not distracted by. You know the things that are going against them, but, lord, you have so much ahead of us. We thank you for this amazing Thursday. Thank you for blessing us with this phone prayer line. Thank you for all of our callers. Thank you for answered prayers. Thank you for blessings. I thank you for this platform. Thank you for all who are listening and, lord, I just ask that, as we continue to live this life, that you'll meet us where we are. All of these things we ask in Jesus' name. Amen.
Speaker 2:All right, y'all. I hope that blessed you. Thank you, dr Tracy. Thank you for the three praying sisters. They have absolutely changed my life. I mean, there's so many good things. Y'all can call. It's free. We're on twice 1 o'clock, 7 o'clock Eastern Standard. On the phone line you see the number going on, but there's so many testimonies, there's so many great things happening and I'm just really grateful for their discipline. I'm grateful for their yes, because we're helping so many more people than I could ever imagine, and I'm just grateful for them. Y'all have an amazing Thursday. Have a great rest of your week. I will be back next Thursday and y'all take care Bye.